We want them to be smarter – do we expect that they already have to know so many things and they still don’t? Did we forget how it was for us – the procedure of growing up, let’s try to put ourselves back into that stage. What did we want – an understanding, a hug from our parents without asking and at the same time trying to refuse it, still feeling loved and at the same time not only by parents, popular and at the same time scared to be too popular – we wanted everything at once. And all of that at the time of figuring out who we are and what we are!
So let’s help them, they still need to be pampered but on a different level, on a level of adult in their way of understanding. Isn’t it that they want to become adults faster and we want them to stay kids longer, and at the same time want them to behave as adults? Let’s try to find balance.
Lets hug them more with our love from the bottom of our hearts even when they refuse, and try to kick themselves out of our hug – they want this hug but they are scared to accept it as to be still recognized as kids – so it’s up to us parents, to hold them tight in any situation, letting them know we will be there for them always.
Respect the knowledge they are born with as next generation and do not hesitate to share and teach them your life experience.
We need to teach our kids HOW to think and WHAT to think!
When stressed by exams, breakdown of friendships or family relationships, bullying, uncertainty, and so on, teenagers tend to become withdrawn or act out their feelings, and refuse to talk about their problems. Like adults, they feel they ought to be able to cope.
More and more teenagers are being treated for depression. It is very difficult for parents to recognize that, as teenagers could be moody and uncommunicative.
Using Emotional Logic techniques we say there are NO negative emotions; only unpleasant ones with useful purposes. When people understand these useful purposes, to give them the energy to adjust to change, they feel better about themselves and understand others better as well.